Reaching the World

This year saw readers of this blog from several new countries, such as Angola, Argentina, Bangladesh, Iraq and Uzbekistan.

Welcome to readers who have visited this blog for the first time, regardless of where you reside. I hope you enjoyed the blog and that you will visit again and again.

These are the 50 countries my readers called home in 2024, in addition to the United States: 

Algeria, Angola, Argentina, Australia, Azerbaijan, Bahrain, Bangladesh, Bosnia & Herzegovina, Brazil, Brunei, China, Colombia, Dominican Republic, Ecuador, Finland, France, Germany, Honduras. Hong Kong, India, Indonesia, Iraq, Ireland, Israel, Kazakhstan, Kuwait, Jordan, Mexico, Morocco, Nepal, Nigeria, Oman, Palestine, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Poland, Russia, Singapore, Slovakia, South Africa, South Korea, Sweden, Tunisia, Turkiye, Ukraine, United Arab Emirates, United Kingdom, Uzbekistan, Venezuela

As always, I thank you for stopping by. I hope you enjoyed your visit.

If You Can't Be Positive, At Least Be Quiet

 If you can't be positive, at least be quiet.

I love this quote. I think it is a great philosophy by which we should strive to live our lives.

There is so much nastiness and negativity in this world, particularly in the anonymity of online groups. Just yesterday someone I know only online viciously attacked me because I won't let my dog sleep on my bed. It made no difference to her that I have severe sleep apnea and chronic insomnia that mean I am lucky to sleep four or five hours each night. And those hours of sleep are frequently interrupted by wakefulness. Some nights it takes anywhere from 1 to 4 hours before I fall asleep, and I am usually awake by 3:30 a.m. 

She clearly believes that her way of raising dogs is the only correct way. I immediately unfriended her, because who needs 'friends' like that. My dogs have good lives. Each gets a walk of between 1 and 2 miles every day.  They get multiple trips into my back yard every day, to play or just to sniff around or lie in the sun. Hers? They spend their days on the couch while she watches football or NASCAR on television.

Where someone's dogs sleep is a personal decision to be made by the person who cares for the dogs. Based on the responses of the people who replied, I would guess that more than half the people do not let their dogs sleep on the human's bed. I don't care either way. As long as the dogs are loved and well cared for, who am I to say where the dogs should sleep?

My dogs have multiple beds in my house. Some dogs prefer to sleep on the tile floor in the bathroom despite the presence of a dog bed. My golden retriever Jett always preferred the tile to his bed or the carpeted floor. He liked to the coolness of the tile floors.

My mother used to tell us not to say anything if we didn't have anything nice to say. Sometimes it's best just to keep the mouth shut rather than expose our ignorance or nastiness. 

So if you can't be positive, please be quiet. The world, and those around you, don't need your nastiness.

You Will Never Get Over It

You will never get over it. 

You will learn to live with it.

These wise words these were offered in response to a woman depressed over the death of her beloved dog.

I can certainly relate to that. I can't say I'm depressed because my dear, sweet Jett died at only 2 years old. But I still cry for him when I think about how awful his death was.

I also get angry when I think about how I was treated by the staff at the veterinary clinic after his death, a veterinary clinic I had patronized with six or more dogs for 14 years. And I'm angry that the veterinarian didn't pick up on the source of Jett's problem.

The reception staff should never tell somebody grieving the death of a beautiful, young, vibrant and healthy dog who died two days after getting sick, to take a breath and relax. No, you stupid fool, I won't get over it. I won’t relax. I want answers. 

I was told my dog's necropsy would take about a week. Some three weeks later, I still could not find out where his body was. I wanted to bring him home. You work in an animal hospital. You are the front line with clients calling about their pets. Show some compassion. If you can't answer a client's question, find someone who can.

I no longer take my dog to that animal hospital. None of my future dogs will be taken there for any reason. The utter and complete lack of sympathy and compassion makes that entire operation unworthy of my patronage and the thousands of dollars I have spent over the years on my dogs. So go take a breath and f*** yourself.

I have a good friend who is a therapist. She is the person responsible for getting Jett to me because she recognized that he deserved a far better home than the one he had next door to her in North Carolina. She also mourns his loss. She understands how I feel. She told me I need to adopt another dog to help me replace the deep grief I feel with joy.

I looked online for several months for another dog, but I was unable to find an adoptable golden retriever, which is the breed I really want. I've had six and a half goldens over the years. I know I could find another wonderful dog that isn't a golden. After all, the shelters are full to bursting with dogs in need of homes. But my heart belongs, and will always belong, to golden retrievers. 

Online friends from across the country sent me suggestions of available adult goldens, but driving to New England or to Washington State or even to Colorado during winter is not an option. And I know how quickly goldens get adopted. So I decided to take a break for a while from searching, and hope that a dog would find me. 

I believe that when a dog I really love dies and crosses the Rainbow 🌈 Bridge, he will send another dog to me. It may take a while, but it will happen. I just have to be patient.

Six months after Jett's death, I am definitely not over it. I doubt if I ever will be. Everything about the death of this beautiful dog haunts me. I still cry whenever I think about it, and I'm not one who cries easily. 

In until Jett sends me another dog to start to fill the hole in my heart, I am enjoying my other dog, Jenny, as we deepen our relationship and enjoys my undivided attention.

You will never get over it. You will learn to live with it.

What wise words these are in response to a woman depressed over the death of her beloved dog.

I can certainly relate to that. I can't say I'm depressed because my dear, sweet Jett died at only 2 years old. But I still cry for him when I think about how awful his death was.

I also get angry when I think about how I was treated by the staff at the veterinary clinic after his death, a veterinary clinic I had patronized with six or more dogs 

 for 14 years. And I'm angry that the veterinarian didn't pick up on the source of Jetr's problem.

You don't tell somebody grieving the death of a beautiful, young, vibrant and healthy dog who died two days after getting sick, to take a breath and relax. No, you stupid cow, I won't get over it. I won’t relax. I want answers. 

I was told my dog's necropsy would take about a week. Some three weeks later, I still could not find out where his body was. I wanted to bring him home. You work in an animal hospital. You are the front line with incoming clients. Show some compassion.

I no longer take my dogs to that animal hospital. None of my future dogs will be taken there for any reason. The utter and complete lack of sympathy and compassion makes that entire operation unworthy of my patronage and the thousands of dollars I have spent over the years on my dogs. So go take a breath and f*** yourself.

I have a good friend who is a therapist. She is the person responsible for getting Jett to me because she recognized that he deserved a far better home than the one he had next door to her in North Carolina. She also mourns his loss. She understands how I feel. She told me I need to adopt another dog to help me replace the deep grief I feel with joy.

I looked online for several months for another dog, but I was unable to find an adaptable golden retriever, which is the breed I really want. I've had six and a half goldens over the years. I know

You will never get over it. You will learn to live with it.

What wise words these are in response to a woman depressed over the death of her beloved dog.

I can certainly relate to that. I can't say I'm depressed because my dear, sweet Jett died at only 2 years old. But I still cry for him when I think about how awful his death was.

I also get angry when I think about how I was treated by the staff at the veterinary clinic after his death, a veterinary clinic I had patronized with six or more dogs 

 for 14 years. And I'm angry that the veterinarian didn't pick up on the source of Jetr's problem.

You don't tell somebody grieving the death of a beautiful, young, vibrant and healthy dog who died two days after getting sick, to take a breath and relax. No, you stupid cow, I won't get over it. I won’t relax. I want answers. 

I was told my dog's necropsy would take about a week. Some three weeks later, I still could not find out where his body was. I wanted to bring him home. You work in an animal hospital. You are the front line with incoming clients. Show some compassion.

I no longer take my dogs to that animal hospital. None of my future dogs will be taken there for any reason. The utter and complete lack of sympathy and compassion makes that entire operation unworthy of my patronage and the thousands of dollars I have spent over the years on my dogs. So go take a breath and f*** yourself.

I have a good friend who is a therapist. She is the person responsible for getting Jett to me because she recognized that he deserved a far better home than the one he had next door to her in North Carolina. She also mourns his loss. She understands how I feel. She told me I need to adopt another dog to help me replace the deep grief I feel with joy.

I looked online for several months for another dog, but I was unable to find an adaptable golden retriever, which is the breed I really want. I've had six and a half goldens over the years. I know I could find another wonderful dog that isn't a golden. After all, the shelters are full to bursting with dogs in need of homes. But my heart belongs, and will always belong, to golden retrievers. 

Online friends from across the country sent me suggestions of available adult goldens, but driving to New England or to Washington State or even to Colorado during winter is not an option. And I know how quickly goldens get adopted. So I decided to take a break for a while from searching, and hope that a dog would find me. 

I believe that when a dog I really love dies and crosses the Rainbow 🌈 Bridge, he will send another dog to me. It may take a while, but it will happen. I just have to be patient.

A few days ago I decided to check the website of a local animal rescue group that I hadn't checked recently. To my immense surprise, there was a 5-year-old male Golden retriever listed. It was noted that he has a medical waiver because he needs some dental work done. 

This dog, named Marley, was admitted to the shelter on December 12. I found him online on December 17. I got to the shelter shortly after it opened the following morning at 10:00 a.m. after filling out some preliminary paperwork, I got to meet Marley and a small room. He wasn't terribly interested in meeting me, but I learned that he had been brought from the shelter or animal control facility in the small New Mexico town of Artesia. So he had been through a lot of changes. He was a happy boy, and he enjoyed playing with a large squeaky rubber hamburger. 

I decided I would like to bring him home with me, but first I needed to bring Jenny, my current dog to the shelter so the pups could meet. We did that the following day. The dogs didn't have a great deal of interest in each other, but there was no growling or snarling between them either. 

Unfortunately, one of the attendants discovered what she called a significant amount of blood in Marley's poop. So that put everything on hold until he could be checked out by the veterinarian. 

He has been seen by the veterinarian, but now we're awaiting results of a stool sample that was sent to a laboratory for analysis. I'm told I will be called as soon as Marley is cleared for adoption, pending Jenny's second visit to meet him.

 I could find 

You will never get over it. You will learn to live with it.

What wise words these are in response to a woman depressed over the death of her beloved dog.

I can certainly relate to that. I can't say I'm depressed because my dear, sweet Jett died at only 2 years old. But I still cry for him when I think about how awful his death was.

I also get angry when I think about how I was treated by the staff at the veterinary clinic after his death, a veterinary clinic I had patronized with six or more dogs 

 for 14 years. And I'm angry that the veterinarian didn't pick up on the source of Jetr's problem.

You don't tell somebody grieving the death of a beautiful, young, vibrant and healthy dog who died two days after getting sick, to take a breath and relax. No, you stupid cow, I won't get over it. I won’t relax. I want answers. 

I was told my dog's necropsy would take about a week. Some three weeks later, I still could not find out where his body was. I wanted to bring him home. You work in an animal hospital. You are the front line with incoming clients. Show some compassion.

I no longer take my dogs to that animal hospital. None of my future dogs will be taken there for any reason. The utter and complete lack of sympathy and compassion makes that entire operation unworthy of my patronage and the thousands of dollars I have spent over the years on my dogs. So go take a breath and f*** yourself.

I have a good friend who is a therapist. She is the person responsible for getting Jett to me because she recognized that he deserved a far better home than the one he had next door to her in North Carolina. She also mourns his loss. She understands how I feel. She told me I need to adopt another dog to help me replace the deep grief I feel with joy.

I looked online for several months for another dog, but I was unable to find an adaptable golden retriever, which is the breed I really want. I've had six and a half goldens over the years. I know I could find another wonderful dog that isn't a golden. After all, the shelters are full to bursting with dogs in need of homes. But my heart belongs, and will always belong, to golden retrievers. 

Online friends from across the country sent me suggestions of available adult goldens, but driving to New England or to Washington State or even to Colorado during winter is not an option. And I know how quickly goldens get adopted. So I decided to take a break for a while from searching, and hope that a dog would find me. 

I believe that when a dog I really love dies and crosses the Rainbow 🌈 Bridge, he will send another dog to me. It may take a while, but it will happen. I just have to be patient.

A few days ago I decided to check the website of a local animal rescue group that I hadn't checked recently. To my immense surprise, there was a 5-year-old male Golden retriever listed. It was noted that he has a medical waiver because he needs some dental work done. 

This dog, named Marley, was admitted to the shelter on December 12. I found him online on December 17. I got to the shelter shortly after it opened the following morning at 10:00 a.m. after filling out some preliminary paperwork, I got to meet Marley and a small room. He wasn't terribly interested in meeting me, but I learned that he had been brought from the shelter or animal control facility in the small New Mexico town of Artesia. So he had been through a lot of changes. He was a happy boy, and he enjoyed playing with a large squeaky rubber hamburger. 

I decided I would like to bring him home with me, but first I needed to bring Jenny, my current dog to the shelter so the pups could meet. We did that the following day. The dogs didn't have a great deal of interest in each other, but there was no growling or snarling between them either. 

Unfortunately, one of the attendants discovered what she called a significant amount of blood in Marley's poop. So that put everything on hold until he could be checked out by the veterinarian. 

He has been seen by the veterinarian, but now we're awaiting results of a stool sample that was sent to a laboratory for analysis. I'm told I will be called as soon as Marley is cleared for adoption, pending Jenny's second visit to meet him.

 wonderful dog that isn't a golden. After all, the shelters are full to bursting with dogs in need of homes. But my heart belongs, and will always belong, to golden retrievers. 

Online friends from across the country sent me suggestions of available adult goldens, but driving to New England or to Washington State or even to Colorado during winter is not an option. And I know how quickly goldens get adopted. So I decided to take a break for a while from searching, and hope that a dog would find me. 

I believe that when a dog I really love dies and crosses the Rainbow 🌈 Bridge, he will send another dog to me. It may take a while, but it will happen. I just have to be patient.

A few days ago I decided to check the website of a local animal rescue group that I hadn't checked recently. To my immense surprise, there was a 5-year-old male Golden retriever listed. It was noted that he has a medical waiver because he needs some dental work done. 

This dog, named Marley, was admitted to the shelter on December 12. I found him online on December 17. I got to the shelter shortly after it opened the following morning at 10:00 a.m. after filling out some preliminary paperwork, I got to meet Marley and a small room. He wasn't terribly interested in meeting me, but I learned that he had been brought from the shelter or animal control facility in the small New Mexico town of Artesia. So he had been through a lot of changes. He was a happy boy, and he enjoyed playing with a large squeaky rubber hamburger. 

I decided I would like to bring him home with me, but first I needed to bring Jenny, my current dog to the shelter so the pups could meet. We did that the following day. The dogs didn't have a great deal of interest in each other, but there was no growling or snarling between them either. 

Unfortunately, one of the attendants discovered what she called a significant amount of blood in Marley's poop. So that put everything on hold until he could be checked out by the veterinarian. 

He has been seen by the veterinarian, but now we're awaiting results of a stool sample that was sent to a laboratory for analysis. I'm told I will be called as soon as Marley is cleared for adoption, pending Jenny's second visit to meet him.

Memories of Christmas Past

It's the morning of Christmas Eve 2024.

My only nod to this holiday season listening to a few of my 45+ Christmas CDs. But as I opened a new box of Rice Chex cereal to fix breakfast, I spotted the recipe on the box for Chex Mix.

I haven't made this tasty, crunchy treat for many years, but do I ever love it! It was for many years a holiday staple. Some years I would make two batches. I don't like Wheat Chex, so I would substitute extra corn and rice cereal in its place. 

The other thing I recently recalled from Christmases past was an annual trip to deliver plates of homemade fudge, cookies and fruitcake (I hate the stuff, but my husband at the time loved it) to the young enlisted men (I think all the personnel guarding the gate to the naval air station where I worked were male at that time in history). We, dogs included, would pull up Christmas Eve evening, roll down the window, and pass a couple of plates to the startled guard. I imagined that these young sailors were probably spending their first Christmas away from home. We would wish them a Merry Christmas, and then turn around to head home. I loved surprising them with some homemade goodies.

My final Christmas memory was walking through the kennels at the humane society where I worked for 8 years, handing each dog a dog biscuit or treat. I felt sorry for the dogs spending the holiday in a kennel, surrounded by other unwanted or discarded dogs. Of course, the dogs had no idea it was Christmas time. But I like to think the treat and a kind word made their day just a little bit brighter.

Those days are long gone. Terror attacks made it impossible to deliver food to unknown members of the military. I don't make Chex mix any more because it's so good I gobble it down. And I left the humane society in 1988 and lost the opportunity to hand out treats to the dogs.

But these memories bring a smile to my face every time.

The Business of Christmas

I am old enough to remember when Christmas was primarily a religious holiday. 

I don't remember when it turned into a day of little more than an opportunity to spend and spend and spend in an endless search for "the perfect gift." But a major commercial holiday is what this former religious holiday has become. 

And do you know what? It disgusts me. I'm not a religious fanatic by any means. I haven't set foot inside a church for decades other than as a tourist visiting a landmark church in another country. 

But the mad dash to get our hands on that season's must-have gift, the spending of hundreds and thousands of dollars many of us can't afford to purchase gifts that the recipients may well not want or like, the madhouse at the mall and at the grocery store - - all of these things have combined with my increasing age to turn me against anything Christmas. 

Once my daughter grew up and moved out on her own, I didn't bother to set up a Christmas tree. I stopped mailing out Christmas cards at least 10 years ago. I no longer do holiday baking, something I used to enjoy a great deal. 

I don't put decorations inside the house, or hang up Christmas lights in the living room. And for the past 2 years at least, I have not even listened to my large collection of Christmas CDs. When stores started setting out their Christmas stuff in August, I turned against the holiday.

My siblings and I agreed long ago not to exchange Christmas gifts. All of us have everything we need or want. 

I do buy something for my daughter every year, and if she can't put her finger on anything she wants or needs, I send her money. This year she had an idea of something she wanted - - a Kindle - - so that's what I sent her, along with a case and a charging cord. My grandson will get a large fire truck, as that's what my daughter said he would like. 

I didn't even have to go to the store to get their gifts. I simply went online, ordered the items, and had them shipped to their home in Kansas. My daughter made a batch of one of my favorite kinds of cookies and shipped those to me. And that is fine. I don't bake for myself anymore with rare exceptions, so the homemade cookies were perfect. 

As for the business of Christmas, I just read that Americans spent roughly $102 billion dollars on Black Friday this year. And on Cyber Monday, just 3 days later, Americans set a record and spent some $13.3 billion that day. I also read somewhere that a fair number of Americans is still paying off last year's Christmas bills. 

Somehow I don't think those who originated in the mid fourth century the whole idea of celebrating the birth of the baby Jesus intended for people to bankrupt themselves to buy unnecessary gifts for each other. This is especially true when so many families around the world, not just in the US, are struggling to pay for housing, medical care and food.

Buy something for the kids. But don't be like a woman who used to work for me. She never had extra money, but every Christmas she spent a small fortune on her kids' Christmas. And her daughter, at least, was rather critical of my daughter who didn't get a ton of things for Christmas. Don't get me wrong. My daughter got a lot of Christmas gifts, but not to excess. I never believed that I could buy my daughter's love with an excess of gifts. And my daughter didn't act like a spoiled brat. 

The business of Christmas has, for me, spoiled a nice holiday once rooted in a religious celebration, a time for family and a time to give to those less fortunate. It should not be a time of excess, greed and debt.

My Grown-up Christmas Wish

Every Christmas I hear people saying what they want for Christmas. And every year, the advertisers bombard us with ads for things they think we should want.

This was a big deal when I was a kid. All the kids in my family, all three of us, had a list of things we hoped Santa would bring us. And on Christmas Day and the day after, we would excitedly tell our friends and cousins what we got for Christmas. And although we attended church services, Christmas was all about the presents we got.

I left childhood behind decades ago, and I no longer wish for material things. I have everything I want and everything I need. So here is my new, grown up Christmas wish list. 

l want people who are sick with no cure to be able to be cured. I want children with no families to be adopted. I want people to never have to worry about food and shelter and heat. I want an end to war and to discrimination and to murder. I want people to live in peace. I want people to wake up and realize that planet Earth is our only home, and we need to start taking care of it. I want it into child abuse, and to animal abuse and to elder abuse. I want a homeless to have a safe place to live. I want all the homeless and unwanted animals to become part of families that will cherish, love and care for them.

This, friends, is my grown-up Christmas wish.

Simple Joys

I saw a video recently of a dog realizing that the man in the distance was his 'dad,' who had been away on a long military deployment.

The dog was nervous at first, but once he realized who the man was, he was beside himself with joy.

That made me think about how most dogs live their lives ... full of simple joys. Rolling in the grass. Sniffing a new odor. Going for a walk. Greeting a new person, or an old friend. Chasing a ball. Waking up and giving a big stretch. Drooling at the scent of something tasty. Enjoying, however briefly, their meal.

Maybe we humans don't have the same level of enjoyment when smelling a new odor, but we can find our own simple pleasures. Who among us can resist the smell of bread fresh from the oven? I love the smell of the outdoors, especially the smell of a pine forest. Unfortunately, I lost most of my ability to smell (and taste) several years ago due to an upper respiratory infection (before covid). But every so often I am able to smell something cooking or to weakly taste a special food. So I understand the joys of having these two senses. So I can only imagine what it must be like to have a sense of smell 10,000 times greater than we mere humans have.

Volumes have been written about domestic dogs. On some level, they seem rather simple. Their joy is simple and uncomplicated, But really, dogs are remarkable creatures, with abilities we can't begin to imagine. 

I recently heard that a drug-detecting dog can detect one drop of an illegal drug in the equivalent of 25 Olympic-size swimming pools. Other dogs can detect hidden currency or people. Some can alert a person to an upcoming seizure or low blood sugar. Some even are reported to detect the presence of the virus that causes covid.

These dogs are rewarded for their detection with lots of excited praise and a chance to grab their favorite toy for a few minutes of play. The special toy is brought out only after a successful detection.

Sometimes we humans have to schedule our joys, an outing to a favorite outdoor spot, for example. But it's important to do things, even if we have to schedule them, that bring us joy.

As a lowly human, I've been thinking about things that bring me joy. I love spending time outdoors, traveling, taking photographs, reading, writing, and taking a nap on a cold day.

What are your simple joys?

My Quandary

I have a quandary that has been with me for quite a while.

It involves a decision about what kind of dog to adopt. My favorite dog breed on the planet is the golden retriever. But goldens, especially adult goldens, are nearly impossible to find in the state where I live. Rescues in nearby states refuse to adopt out of state.

Roughly half of the 15 dogs I have adopted over the years have been mixed breeds or non-golden breeds. So I've been thinking, "Should I give up on finding a golden and instead try to find another kind of dog?" Animal shelters throughout the country are packed with dogs needing homes. 

So here is my quandary: I have looked online at several local rescue groups and animal shelters. I'm not seeing any dogs that really attract my attention. There have been a couple of older Labrador retrievers, and I have submitted an application to foster an old (11-12 years), black Lab whose owner died. More than three weeks later, I haven't been contacted about a home visit or meet-and-greet opportunity.

Should I apply to adopt one of the yellow Labs I have seen? I feel bad for the dogs that aren't pretty, or who don't photograph well, or who have other things doing on, such as they don't like other dogs or they have to be adopted with their canine best friend. 

I know that black dogs and cats are less likely to be adopted that animals of other colors. So should I wait and see what happens with my foster application, or should I apply to adopt one of the yellow Labs I have seen available? I know that Labs are energetic, but the ones I am considering are seven or so years old.

In the end, of course, whichever dog joins our family will be only with the approval of my current dog, Jenny.

I have read about people who go into an animal shelter and ask to adopt the oldest dog, or the dog who has been in the shelter the longest, or who has no chance of being adopted. I really admire people who do those things. I am not sure, however, that I can be that person. 

So I guess I will do the next best thing: give a loving home to a dog in need, whether it be a golden retriever, another breed or a mixed breed.

Words Of Wisdom From A Poet

We need much less than we think we need.

I love this quote by the late American poet Maya Angelou. She is correct, of course, but I daresay that most Americans believe that we should get all we can. We're always in search of more -- more money, a newer car, a bigger house, more fame or recognition.

Too many believe that "if only I had" more money, a better job, a prettier wife, smarter kids, and on and on.

What if, instead of focusing on what we don't have -- and often don't need -- we were grateful for what we do have? What if we recognize that we really do have what we need?

OK, I'll start. If only I had better vision. Instead, what if I thought about how grateful I am to be able to see at all. I have been very nearsighted since I was a child of 10. I wore glasses, then contact lenses, then I had surgery so I could see well without corrective lenses of any kind. Then as I turned 40, I needed glasses for reading. After surgery to remove cataracts, I could see well with glasses. Then I suffered the first of several retinal tears and detachments. Several surgeries later, I need glasses for both reading and for distance sight. My right always, always the stronger eye, is now pretty useless for either kind of vision. I visit a retina specialist twice each year for scans and photographs of the interior of my eyes, and I use prescription eye drops in both eyes twice every day.

But you know what? As a photographer and an avid reader, and as someone who values her independence and needs to be able to drive, I am so grateful that my vision remains good enough for me to continue to pursue my passion of photography. And I can still drive safely, although I have chosen not to drive at night due to poor night vision. So yes, I am extremely thankful. And I have all I need.

If only I had more money to spend on travel. Or what if I thought about how grateful I am that I can still afford to travel the world, to visit places I have always wanted to visit or to revisit some of my favorite countries? I have cut back on travel due to the increased cost of trips and airfare, but I still get to take several fabulous trips each year.

If only I could find a golden retriever to adopt. What if I decided instead to adopt or foster a dog in need, one that might not get adopted. I have applied to foster an old (11 to 12 years old) black Labrador retriever who ended up in an animal shelter because his owner died. He has three strikes against him: He is big. He is old. And he is black. Black dogs and black cats are least likely to be adopted. 

You get the idea. I truly do need much less than I think I need. I just need to do a better job of reminding myself of this.

Having Enough

 Gratitude turns what we have into enough.

I ran across this sentiment online somewhere. And I like it. The sentiment seems appropriate during this season of thanksgiving, when we are called to consider our blessings (if we can take a few moments from the ever-intensifying calls to spend, spend, spend on Christmas things) and to appreciate and share our blessings with those less fortunate among us.

I believe it is important not only to acknowledge all we have, both physically and emotionally, but to understand that what we have truly is enough. There certainly are those who do not have enough -- enough food, enough clothing, enough medical care, enough shelter, enough moral support and enough money to support them -- but most of us do have more than enough. Yes, even though many are struggling due to the high cost of nearly everything, we are better off than many in other countries.

So please consider those among us who do not have enough. Too many of our elderly face a season of hunger and loneliness. Too many of our veterans struggle with PTSD and other mental health challenges. Too many of our citizens are homeless or hungry.

I can't save the world. But I can buy an extra can or soup or a package of pasta when they are on sale and donate food to a local food bank, or donate a warm coat to a winter coat drive. The important thing is, I can, and I will, do something. I have enough to do those simple things. Today my local police department is having a food drive to benefit a local food pantry. I have a couple bags of food to donate, as well as canned and dry dog food to donate to a pet food bank that help people feed their companion animals. I will probably make a donation to the local Meals on Wheels organization as well, to help provide meals to the elderly and those physically or financially unable to shop for or prepare meals for themselves.

I recall a story from years ago about an elderly parent saying goodbye to an adult child and parting with the words "I wish you enough." The mother wished her daughter enough good times to sustain her through life, enough pain to make her appreciate the good things in her life, and enough loss to appreciate all she has. You can find the entire brief story of the encounter online.

I suspect most Americans are not satisfied with simply having enough. We always seem to want more than enough. We see this among so many of the super wealthy in our country, who have billions of dollars but still want more. Rather than donating some of their hundreds of millions of dollars to help others, their focus is on accumulating even more wealth.

So as we approach Thanksgiving, I wish you all enough.

Time Catches Up With All Of Us

One thing I learned during a recent photography trip, which isn't about photography at all, is that age is really taking a toll on me.

I had to skip, or rather I chose to skip, some of the walks to waterfalls because I felt like the walk was just too strenuous for me. Walking across, and trying to balance on, rocks while going downhill, isn't anything I'm comfortable with. I am not willing to risk a tumble and possibly a broken bone just to get a nice shot.

In my mind, I'm still a fit and healthy person. And compared with many people my age, I really am a fit and healthy person.

But my balance isn't what it used to be. And along with that has come a loss of confidence. If I'm not confident that I can complete the hike safely, I'm not going.

It's difficult to accept the fact that I have finally reached a point in my life where there are things I'm just not comfortable doing. I hate to forgo an opportunity to see and photograph something beautiful, but it isn't worth injuring myself. And my decision was confirmed as the prudent one by other photographers who completed the hike when they noted that in one case, the rocks were covered with a slippery moss. Still, the local guide made a disparaging comment (reported to me later by another member of the group) that he couldn't understand why people would travel across the globe and then not take part in all of the hikes. The guide in question is an active duty member of his nation's military, considerably younger than I am, and a lot more fit. I wasn't the only person to skip a few outings. It doesn't matter why some people didn't go on every outing. Maybe they were tired and wanted to sleep later. Maybe they had an injury. It doesn't really matter. Going or not going -- it was their/my choice.

It's difficult enough knowing that I'm not the person I used to be, a person who completed the hilly, 26.2 mile San Francisco marathon. I don't need to know about disparaging comments from a younger man and active duty soldier.

The person who reported the comment to me said she replied that the trip was rated a level 1, and that some of the hikes were not level 1. She said people chose a level 1 trip because they were not able or were uncomfortable doing a more challenging trip.

Still, the experience made me realize in a very real way that physically at least, I'm no longer a young person.

Not Feeling the Holiday Spirit

I don't know why it happened, but this year I have lost my interest in donating to charity.

I typically donate to several charities that benefit both animals (dogs and elephants primarily) and humans. But this year, my heart isn't in donating anywhere. And if I do donate, it will be far less than my typical donation.

Part of the reason is the outrageous cost of everything, from groceries to propane used to heat my house, to airfare. I can easily spend close to $100 for two bags of groceries, and I don't buy anything extravagant.

My homeowner's insurance increased by more than 16 percent. Car insurance went up as well.  My cost of living increase? A whopping 2.5 percent.

The other part of my lack of interest in donating to my favorite charities is not so easily defined. Unlike during the past 10 years or so, I have sold zero, no photo wall calendars. I match every dollar raised and donate the proceeds to an elephant charity in Kenya. But not this year. Nobody wants a beautiful photo wall calendar.

The bottom line is, I just don't feel like donating. I particularly don't want to donate to charities that help people in the 'red' states that voted to install a fascist-leaning dictator as the incoming president of the United States.

In the aftermath of this year's disastrous presidential election, I will no longer donate to any charity that helps people in 'red' states recover from hurricanes, floods, tornados or other natural disasters. This may seem mean or unAmerican or unChristian or whatever, but I simply cannot bring myself to helf anyone who voted to put a fascist into the greatest country in the world. I know that not everyone in red states supports Cheetolini, but my donations will stay close to home this year.

Instead, I will donate dry and canned dog food to help local dog owners provide food for their animals. I also bought some stuffed animals for kids in need in my area, but apparently groups that collect toys for kids won't accept stuffed animals. So I will donate those, along with a couple of toys, to a local charity that helps dogs in need of medical or behavioral care.

I have some food to donate locally, as well as toys if I can find a local toy drive. And I was saddened to learn that many charities will not accept stuffed animals, even new ones with the tags still attached. I think stuffed animals are the most comforting thing a child can have. A side from a few small monetary donations, that will be the extent of my generosity this year.

This same person wants to slash or eliminate climate change programs, to slash or eliminate programs that notify the public of incoming major weather systems, and slash or eliminate emergency response and assistance agencies.He plans to remove environmental protections and to deport millions of immigrants, both legal and illegal. Social Security and Medicare are likely to come under attack. So if these people in 'red' states are dumb enough to vote against their own best interests, they won't get any help with my dollars.

This may well be the best holiday season America will see for the foreseeable future.

Paying to Donate

I typically give a good amount of money to several charities each year.

But this year, I have cut back on my donations due to the excessive cost of groceries, propane (used to heat my house, run my water heater and stove), etc.

One thing that really annoys me is being asked by charities to donate more than my gift to cover the cost of processing the donation. Since online donations are typically charged to a credit card, and credit card companies charge of fee of 3 percent to 4 percent of the transaction cost, the charity does incur a cost for each donation.

But in my mind, asking me to donate money and pay the processing fee is akin to asking donors to pay for the privilege of donating. What will come next? Asking donors to cover the cost of electricity to operate the computers? Will there be a fee to cover the salary of employees or the organization's overhead?

To me, accepting monetary donations online is simply a cost of doing business. And the processing fee is far less than the amount of every donation. Transaction fees for debit card donations are very small. And the request to cover the processing charge is optional. But it still rankles me.

I know that inflation and producer greed have impacted charities just as they have impacted consumers.

But no, I will not be paying to donate to any charity. 

Goodbye to My America

We had the opportunity to do something that has never been done before in this country.

We could have elected not just a woman, but a biracial woman, a woman of color, to lead this country. We could have elected a leader who offered hope, who offered opportunities, who offered sanity and inspiration, to people of all races, of all economic levels, in this country.

But more than half of the voters of this once-great country chose to elect a racist, a convicted felon, a convicted rapist, a perpetual liar, a misogynist, a man whose dementia makes him unfit to lead this nation. They elected someone intent on making America suffer and promising to put into positions of power other mentally unfit men to dismantle the federal government, to decimate health care, to reject life-saving vaccines, to cozy up to the dictators of the world, to end Social Security and other programs on which people depend.

I fear not just for my nation, but for the rest of the world. With the presidency and both chambers of Congress in the hands of the fascists, I fear that Ukraine, a country fighting for its own democracy and survival as a free nation, will fall to the Russian invaders without the weapons provided by the United States. I fear the dismantling of our independent press. I fear that like Germany of the 1930s and 1940s, we have lost our system of checks and balances to rein in the raging madmad in power.

I fear more attacks on women. I fear the rise of so-called Christian nationalism. I fear further brainwashing of children in our public education system.

I fear for our planet, already struggling and showing her pain with climate change, drought, wildfires, floods and other natural catastrophes. I rear for our wild places and our wildlife struggling to survive.

I fear for those who aren't white, male and Christian. I fear for the LGBTQ population, and for the Jewish and Muslim members of our society.

The great American experiment in democracy has ended. That half of my fellow citizens could believe, and vote for, a person convicted of rape and 34 other felonies, who has pledged to be a dictator, who promises revenge and retribution on his alleged enemies, who calls for the shooting deaths of reporters and anyone who opposes him, makes me literally sick to my stomach.

Goodbye, America.

Stress and Fear

 I am not someone who gets stressed easily.

But today, I am very stressed. I am stressing about the future of our democratic republic, whose fate will be decided tomorrow in the most important national election of my life.

Will Americans vote for a progressive, positive Democratic candidate who brings hope to Americans? Or will Americans vote for a mentally ill, fascist-leaning, traitorous Republican who offers only a dark, violent future for this country?

The contrast couldn't be more clear. And the stakes could not be any higher.

I took part in early voting last month, as I don't trust the post office to safely and promptly deliver my absentee ballot. 

The future under an unhinged megalomaniac who wants to raise taxes on the middle class as he cuts taxes on his wealthy cronies, who openly admires Adolf Hitler and Vladimir Putin, who wants to deport tens of millions of immigrants (including those in the US legally), who wants to send the treatment of women back to the 1950s, and who wants to take away health care from millions, is terrifying. 

It's also unimaginable to me that tens of millions of Americans support this chronic liar who cares only about himself. He is a convicted rapist and he has been convicted of 34 felony counts. And he promises to fill his cabinet with nutjobs such as RFK Jr and Elon Musk.

It is highly probable that we won't know the final results of this year's election until later in the week. And it's almost guaranteed that if the traitor loses the election, he will appeal the decision and get his minions to stage violent protests like those we saw on January 6, 2021. 

America is more prepared for violent protests this year, and the leader of the seditionists is no longer in power.But those who refuse to accept the results of the election have had time to plan their rebellion.

So yes, I am stressed. I am frightened. I fear for my country. Indeed, I fear for the world.

Cows

I recently was part of a photography group that visited both Croatia and Slovenia.

One day in Slovenia, I decided not to take part in a walk to a waterfall because I wasn't comfortable on the hilly, rocky, slippery terrain. The morning outing was a bit more strenuous than I was comfortable with. I found a bench near a grassy enclosure that held five cows. There were three adult cows, and two calves. One of the cows was wearing a bell around her neck. I'm told the cow with the bell was a matriarch of the group, and that even if the animals were dispersed over a large area, the other members of the herd could locate their leader by the clanging of the bell. The bell also made it easier for the cowherd to find the herd.

So I sat on the stone bench and watched the cows. I felt the urge to write, but I couldn't call up my blog. So I decided to dictate a draft e-mail with the beginnings of this post.

Now I would guess that not too many people give a lot of thought to cows and their lives. But as I watched these five cows peacefully grazing on a comfortably warm and partly sunny day, I started wondering about what cows think about their environment. and their lives. 

I suppose that cows, not being the brightest among mammalian species, don't really think about their environment or about their future. They simply are. They do what cows have always done. They graze on grass, drink water when they need a drink, and have not a care in the world as long as their basic needs are met. 

In that sense, cows are much better off than are we humans. We worry about the future. We fret. We lose sleep. We plot and plan.

I know that most cows, the vast majority in fact, spend their lives outdoors in the sunshine eating grass. And then they are shipped off to what the British used to call the knacker man. There they are killed and chopped up into various cuts of meat. So-called beef cattle are raised and killed for their meat. Dairy cows, such as the ones I watched, are used to produce milk for human consumption until they are deemed no longer productive. Then they, too, end up as hamburger meat.

I would guess that cows don't worry about the future. They don't fear their looming deaths and dismemberment. They simply do what cows have always done. They eat, they drink, they have babies, and they have no fear of what future awaits them. 

Some 900.000 cattle are slaughtered every day around the world. That is a tremendous number of lives lost each day. Several years ago I made the decision to give up cow's milk and beef. I really enjoyed vanilla almond milk, until I had to give up anything almond due to the nuts' contribution to the development of kidney stones, for which I have been treated surgically five times. If I feel like having a burger, I enjoy a plant-based burger, which is remarkably tasty It isn't much, but giving up beef is my small contribution to lessening the suffering of animals.

So in one respect, I think cows are very lucky. They live for the day. They love their babies, but they don't fret about things over which they have no control.

We humans could take a lesson from the lowly cow.

My Heart Hurts

My heart hurts.

It hurts when I watch television coverage of the aftermath of hurricane Helene in the southeastern part of the US. It hurts as I watch the events marking the one year anniversary of the October 7 terror attack on Israel, an attack that took the lives of some 1,200 innocent people. My heart hurts for the 251 people taken hostage, and the 101 still being held hostage if they haven’t been killed already. My heart hurts as I see the suffering of the innocent people in Gaza, whose lives and whose territory have been taken over by the terrorists of Hamas.

My heart hurts when I see the devastation in Lebanon, where most people afflicted by the bombing are innocent civilians. 

My heart hurts for the people of Ukraine, whose country has been under attack by Russia for nearly 3 years. And my heart hurts for the Jewish citizens of the United States who continue to face antisemitism in public and on college campuses.

My heart hurts for this country as many of its citizens and some of the governments work to remove rights from us in the name of religion or politics.

And my heart hurts for the non-human among us as well. My heart hurts for the endless stream of dogs in animal shelters throughout the country who will lose their lives because no one wants them. My heart hurts for the wolves, the bears and other mammals hunted mercilessly. My heart hurts for this planet that sustains us as humans continue to pollute and rape it of its natural resources.

There is so much pain, so much hurt and so much evil in this world. Sometimes it seems overwhelming.

Please Stop With the Guilt!

Why can't, or won't ,people, understand?

I love golden retrievers. I have wanted a golden since I first saw one when I was a child. I have adopted seven goldens over the years. Actually, one of those dogs was a half golden/half corgi who is my heart dog. 

So please stop telling me to adopt a mixed breed, or a golden doodle. I have nothing against mixed breed dogs. My current dog, Jenny, is a mix of who knows what breeds. I have adopted, and loved, eight mixed breed dogs over the years. I have adopted seven purebred dogs.

But my heart belongs to goldens. I am well aware that there are millions of dogs, mostly mixed breeds, languishing in animal shelters. I am aware that most of them will not get adopted.

For me, adopting a new dog into my family is a very personal thing. I must, and I will, follow my heart. 

A few years ago, I decided that for once in my life I wanted a luxury car. So I bought a slightly used Mercedes Benz. I didn't want a Ford or a Cadillac or a Volkswagen. I wanted a bright red Mercedes. And a bright red Mercedes is what I bought.

I feel the same about golden retrievers. To me, they are the top of the line dog breed. This does not mean I view other breeds or mixes as unworthy of rescue or adoption. It does not mean I view these non-goldens as unworthy of being loved as an important part of a family. It does mean that they simply are not the kinds of dog I want at this point in my life.

So no, I am not going to adopt a golden doodle or any other designer dog. I don't want a Chihuahua or a pit bull or a cattle dog, the breeds most common in shelters where I live.

I spent 8 years working for a large California humane society. I don't need to be lectured about the overpopulation of unwanted dogs in this country, in my state or in my city. 

My most recent golden retriever died in a very traumatic fashion -- for him and for me --  from a rare medical condition that treatment didn't help. I am still dealing with the trauma of his death.

So please stop trying to guilt me into getting a dog that isn't what I really want. That isn't fair to me, and it certainly isn't fair to the dog.

Prosecutor Or Felon?

The 2024 election is just six weeks away.

Amid all the hype and breathless reporting of polls, several things are extremely clear. The two candidates could not be more opposite in everything: personality, character, policies.

I don't want a president who deals exclusively in threats, fear-mongering, lies, insults and name-calling.  

I don't want a president who is so out of touch with everyday Americans that he talks about buying a pound of cereal. Every shopper knows that cereal is sole by the box or bag, not by the pound.

I don't want a president who spends more time golfing than he does working for the American public.

I don't want a president who hurls ketchup-covered food at the wall when he is upset.

I don't want a president who openly admires dictators, and who announced that he "fell in love" with the North Korean dictator.

I don't want a president who has been convicted of rape and of committing 34 other felonies.

I don't want a president who had a secret meeting with the leader of Russia at which no notes were taken.

I don't want a president who insults world leaders and who shoves them aside so he can be in front for a photo.

I don't want a president who openly lusts after his eldest daughter.

I don't want a president who steals dozens of boxes of highly classified materials, stores them in a residence bathroom, shows them to a foreign national, and then lies about stealing the documents.

I don't want a president who has no plans and no policy proposals, but who touts his 'concepts' rather than plans.

I don't want a president who wants to send Haitian immigrants to Venezuela because he doesn't know that Haitians are from Haiti.

I don't want a president who steals from charities for children with cancer.

I want a president who works to uplift people. 

I want a president who will work to improve the standard of living for all Americans, not just the super wealthy. 

I want a president with a sense of humor. 

I want a president who is joyful. 

I want a president who knows how to laugh. 

I want a president who happily takes part in a video to show a Senate colleague how to make a tuna melt. 

I want a president who cares about people. 

I want a president who shows compassion. 

I want a president who has actual plans for her administration, along with real policies. 

I want a president who will protect, not remove, the rights of everyone.

I want a president who knows what it is like to grow up in a middle class family of immigrants. 

I want a president who likes people for who they are, not for what they can do for her. 

I want a president who knows and enforces the law.

I want a president who understands and defends the US Constitution.

My choice for president is based on a number of things, including personality, but mostly on her willingness and ability to put country above party and especially country about self.

World Gratitude Day 2024

 There is much in this world that is sad, disappointing, frightening, even horrifying.

There is international war. There is escalating gun violence and other violent crime in this country. There is a political party hell-bent on either destroying this country or turning it into 'Christian', fascist state. There are millions of people around the world suffering from starvation, flooding and other natural disasters. The planet is suffering. There is a presidential candidate with tens of millions of supporters who ignore his deteriorating mental condition and rabidly embrace his fascist leanings.

But today, World Gratitude Day, I want to focus on things that make me smile, that make me happy. Things for which I am grateful.

The joyfulness of my dog who at age 3 often makes me smile. I love watching her sleep peacefully in her bed.

Looking at some of my photographs can make me smile and bring back precise memories of when and where they were taken. Not just the memories and the images, but realizing that I did a good job of capturing the scene, makes me happy.

Walking outside on a crisp autumn morning, with no wind, no traffic and no noise, under a blue sky, makes me happy. A beautiful sunrise over the mountains adds to the joy.

Looking at photos of some of the stunning places I have visited reminds me to be grateful for the opportunity to travel, to see places I have always wanted to see, to photograph amazing places and wildlife, and to meet people from many other cultures.

There is beauty in this world. And while the evil gets most of the attention, there also is kindness. There are some good people doing their best to make this world a better place. We who have much for which to be grateful should remember to join them in making the world a better place.

Let's be grateful for the good things and the good people in our lives.

I Am Sick of the Death

I am sick of my Facebook newsfeed being filled with appeals to save this dog with only one day to live before it is killed. 

I am sick of posts about some poor dog that has been confined to a kennel run in an animal shelter for the past two or three years. I am sick of people refusing to have their dogs and cats spayed or neutered, thus contributing to the millions -- yes, millions -- of pet animals killed each year because there is no room, and there are no homes, for them.

I worked in a large California humane society for 8 years in the 1980s. Sadly, the past 35 years have seen little improvement in the number of animals killed each year for lack of space. Some 3 to 4 million companion animals are killed in this country every year.

I have adopted 15 dogs over the years, some from humane societies, some from rescue groups, and some directly from their previous families. All were spayed or neutered except one. He, sadly, died before he could be neutered. But he never added to the surplus pet problem.

The problem of too many dogs and cats is one that can be, and should be, corrected. 

I cannot solve the overpopulation problem on my own.

Whenever a post appears in my newsfeed about a dog in urgent need of adoption or rescue, I block that organization so I don't see any more of its pleasing posts. This is particularly true of animal shelters in other states. 

I cannot adopt the millions of dogs in need of new homes. I cannot donate enough money to fix this problem. It is a problem of human making. Humans have allowed this problem to continue for many decades. Only humans, collectively, can solve this problem.

I cannot continue to be besieged by stories of dogs needing urgent rescue. These stories hurt my soul, and my soul has been hurt far too much. I do what I can to help, but besieging me with more sad dog stories isn't the answer. 

I am currently looking for another dog to adopt. That is all I can do.

What Has Happened to Us?

On this 23rd anniversary of this nation's worst terror attack in American history, I believe that Sept. 11 should be a national holiday. 

It should be a day to remember all those who died that day while going about their daily lives. September 11 should join other days of remembrance such as Memorial Day and Veterans Day. We should cancel Columbus Day, which is a minor holiday celebrated by the federal government, but not by anyone else. And it is an insult to Native Americans who resent having to honor a man who enslaved and killed so many of their ancestors.

Let us instead honor the nearly 3,000 innocent people who died on that beautiful September day in 2001. Let us also honor those first responders -- police, firefighters and paramedics -- who rushed in to help the victims. Sone 343 New York firefighters and paramedics died that day. An equal number later died of 911-related illnesses.  

Seventy two peace officers died in the line of duty on September 11, with an additional 229 who died of related illnesses.

These attacks killed people of all ages, from young children to senior citizens. They killed US citizens and immigrants. They killed men and women, people of all races, ethnicities and religions. 

And let us honor the survivors who will forever carry the physical and emotional scars of that day. Let us honor all who were forever scarred by the memories of Sept. 11, 2001. 

Let us remember how Americans came together in the aftermath of that terrible day, in love and support of each other and of this great nation. It didn't matter the gender or nationality or economic status of the victims. We cam together as one nation, united in grief. Whatever our race, whatever our political beliefs, it didn't matter. What did matter was that our country had been viciously attacked, and our fellow Americans had died.

Let us work to regain the sense of a common humanity, a nation united, that we experienced in the aftermath of this horrible day. Wei need to work on rekindling that sense of unity, that sense of togetherness.

As NBC News anchor Lester Holt commented at the conclusion of a story looking back on the aftermath of 9/11, "What has happened to us?"

Above all, let us never forget.

One of These Days

How often have we made this statement: One of these days I'm going to ...?

For me, the best day to do these 'one of these days' things will be a cold, cloudy winter day, a day that is perfect for staying indoors. 

One of these days I won't take my dog for her expected morning walk.

One of these days I will skip walking 10,000 steps (usually more).

One of these days I will stay in my cozy, warm pajamas all day.

One of the days I will spend the day writing or reading, things I really enjoy.

One of these days I will cook comfort food or soup that will fill my house with wonderful aromas.

One of these I will finally tackle PhotoShop.

One of these days may be too late.

The problem in waiting for 'one of these days' to arrive is that too many 'one of these days' comments may find us wasting our days, our lives, with  postponing things that might be just what we need. So skip walking the dog once. Stay in your comfy pajamas. Cook that comfort food. Don't exercise once in a while.

Make one of these days today!

Do. Create. Be.

 Do. Create. Be.

I did not create this chain of words. I ran across them on a Facebook page where people share their photos of Yellowstone National Park. But I like what these words prompt me to do. Do what I love. Do something to help others. Do something to make this cruel, often hate-filled world a better, friendlier place.

Create pushes me to indulge in my creative pursuits of photography and writing. I don't write music or screenplays. I can't draw or paint. I don't have the imagination to write poetry or fiction. But I can write about things I love, about my travels and about my experiences. I can create beautiful photos and share them with my friends. I can use my photos to create wall calendars and I can give the money from sales of my calendars to one of my favorite charities.

Be is a more difficult word to put into practice. Be brave. Be kind. Be strong. Be helpful. Be my own person. Be helpful. Be generous with my time and resources. Be my best self. Be an example to others. Be authentic.

Thank you to the couple who created this 3-word expression. As a writer, I love seeing the power of words and the impact, both good and bad, they can have.

So get out there and do. Create. Be.

A Year of Changes

This year is turning out to be a year of changes.

First the negative change. My 2-year-old golden retriever, Jett, died suddenly just two days after getting sick. I will always wonder whether his life could have been saved had his veterinarian detected the massive infection ravaging his body, and ultimately, his brain. He died of meningitis.

Another change is happening as a result of Jett's death. I am leaving the veterinary practice I have used for the past 14 years. There are a couple of reasons for my decision, both related to Jett's death. I no longer will entrust my dogs to that practice, so I'm moving on.

Earlier this year I traded in an SUV I didn't like and replaced it with an almost new, smaller, hybrid SUV. I like the newer car a lot.

I'm also changing cell phone carriers, leaving the one I have used for some 20 years. Two things prompted this change. AT&T has had not one, but two, so-called 'data breaches' this year. In other words, the company's customer information was hacked ... twice. The thing that put me over the top in deciding to leave was the monthly increase of more than $10. An extra $125 per year for cell phone service is something I will not tolerate. So goodbye, AT&T. I am tired of constant rate increases that far exceed my paltry 3 percent cost of living increase last year.

Another change under consideration is dropping DirecTV and switching to streaming services. I need to do some research first to figure out which streaming services I want.

So that's it. Change is always a bit unnerving, but it's not a bad thing (except in Jett's case). I think adapting to change is especially helpful to us older folks. Change can help us grow.

So let the change begin!

The Power of Words

I love words. They can be so powerful and so descriptive.

I got my thesaurus out to help augment my initial list of words. 

Here are a few to start. Do you know about whom I am speaking?  One guess.

disgusting

despicable 

immoral.

greedy

deranged

egotistical

boorish 

lying 

negative

vindictive

nasty 

traitorous. 

vile

hateful

spiteful

vengeful

foul

cruel

repulsive

contemptible

revolting

vulgar

pompous

deplorable

loathsome

selfish

dangerous

racist

misogynist

classless

unprofessional

This is a start. Which words would you add to the list?

Inspiring Words

 And still I rise.

These words are the title of the third volume of poetry by renowned American poet Maya Angelou. These words are also tattooed on the collarbone of the best female gymnast ever, Simone Biles.

And rise she has. After withdrawing from the 2020 Olympics because of the 'twisties,' after which she was called a coward and a quitter, Simone Biles came roaring back. She won three gold medals and one silver medal in the 2024 Paris Olympics. In total, she has won 11 Olympic medals. Adding her 30 world championship medals makes her the most decorated gymnast of all time.    

The twisties is a dangerous phenomenon experienced by some gymnasts in which they lose their perception of where their bodies are while flying through the air. The twisties can result in serious injury or even death. Imagine, if you can, flying through the air, several feet off the ground, and having no idea where you are in relation to the floor. How soon will your feet hit the ground? At what point do you get your feet and legs in position to make a safe landing?

Simone has risen above so much. Born to a drug-addicted mother unable to care for her and her three siblings, Simone spent years in the foster care system before being adopted with one of her sisters by her grandparents.

How inspiring her achievements, indeed her life, have been. Keep rising, Simone. Whether you decide to retire from competitive gymnastics or keep going, you are an inspiration to the world, especially to the young girls who watch you train and dream about their own Olympic chances.

Remembering Pete

On August 25, 2023, the world lost a great man. 

He wasn’t famous. He wasn’t infamous, but he had friends both online and in real life who miss him terribly. 

His name was Pete. He loved all animals, especially his beloved cat ScOOter and golden retrievers. He loved nature. He was an awesome nature photographer. He loved hiking, and he loved bicycling. Pete had a great sense of humor, and he had the ability to find humor and joy in most everything. He quickly became friends with everyone he met. He was kind and generous. In return, some of his female friends showered him with gifts of homemade preserves, funny socks and a variety of tasty treats.

And then on that August 25, Pete left his car in the parking lot of a local Ohio park, hiked to an old barn, got comfortable, and took his life. His last post ended with the words “I’m home now.” This wasn’t the typical, witty, humorous post that Pete made. It left a lot of people wondering what was going on. Sadly, we soon found out. 

To say his friends were stunned is a huge understatement. Nobody knew he was depressed. Nobody knew he was suffering. If he had reached out to someone, anyone, people would have done anything to help him. Like comedian Robin Williams, who was the funniest man I’ve ever heard, Pete’s humor masked his pain. He suffered in silence until he couldn’t take it anymore.

I am told that there were several reasons -- all speculation -- why Pete decided to take his life. The isolation of Covid. The death of his beloved cat ScOOter. And finally, being forced to vacate the apartment where he had lived for many years so it could be renovated by the management company. Were there other things weighing on Pete’s mind? We will never know.

All of his friends questioned why. Why didn’t he reach out to somebody? Why did none of his friends have the slightest hint that he was suffering? I never met Pete in person. I never spoke to him on the phone. But we were Facebook friends. He always sent me a card and a photo of whichever of my dogs had died. But looking back to when my heart dog Benny, a golden retriever/corgi mix, died in late June, just a couple of months before Pete's passing, I realize Pete didn't send me a condolence card. Was that a subtle indication of what was going on in Pete's mind? 

Because I knew he loved coffee, I would always bring a bag of coffee beans back for Pete when I visited a coffee producing country. Tanzania, Nicaragua, Brazil and other countries I visited provided bags of coffee beans for Pete.

And of course, we shared a love of photography, nature, animals and especially golden retrievers. We both shot with Canon cameras. It was rather unusual to find a fellow Canon enthusiast in a world of Nikon shooters.

Every year for the past several years I have made photo wall calendars and offered them for sale to raise funds for an African charity that works to save African elephants. Pete always ordered six calendars, with different photographic themes, that he would give to some of his friends as Christmas gifts. Last year another friend of his decided to keep this tradition going by ordering six calendars and distributing them for Christmas gifts to some of Pete’s friends. I don’t know whether this tradition will continue this year or not.

Pete and I shared a great love of nature photography, but I was nevertheless stunned to find after his death that he had left one of his Canon lenses to me. I had to purchase an adapter so that it would fit my mirrorless camera, but I took it with me earlier this year on a photography trip to Yosemite National Park. 

The person who handled the distribution of Pete’s personal property also sent me Pete’s large camera bag, along with a variety of filters and other equipment. The filters would not fit any of my cameras, so I mailed them to a mutual friend who could use them. A camera body that I also wasn’t expecting I sent to another friend of Pete’s, as I have all the cameras I need.

It’s so difficult and so very sobering to think that we lost Pete one year ago today. I hope he has been reunited with his beloved ScOOter cat, and that he has found the peace that eluded him during his life on this planet.

Go Someplace You've Never Been Before

Once a year, go someplace you've never been before. -- Dalai Lama

I think this is wonderful advice. I used to travel a lot, but now with the price of the trips and the sky high price of airfare, I have had to cut back on my travels considerably.

This year's travel schedule is very light, thanks to the incompetence of American Airlines management that made it impossible to get to a scheduled trip to South Africa with European friends. But next year should be better, with trips to southern Africa, Yellowstone National Park, Banff (Canada) and Switzerland on the schedule. 

It's always great fun to visit a new locale, even when I discover the place isn't one to which I want to return. There are only a few countries I have no desire to revisit: Nicaragua, Iceland, Ethiopia, Brazil, Russia and Namibia immediately come to mind. I have been to Costa Rica and Botswana twice, and to Kenya and Tanzania multiple  times. The latter two keep drawing me back for their wonderful wildlife photography opportunities. My favorite domestic destination is Yellowstone National Park, which I have visited close to 10 times, and which I will visit again next year.

The Olympics were more personal whenever the television coverage showed the Eiffel Tower, because I had visited this iconic landmark when I was in Paris a few years ago. The same goes for the Arc de Triomphe, which was only a block or so from my hotel. I got to see and photograph it any time I wanted to by simply walking a short distance from my hotel.

Everything is so expensive and so uncertain these days, but I hope to keep checking countries off my bucket list for as long as I am able to travel and my money lasts.

I used to work with a guy in Houston who was proud of the fact he had never left the state of Texas, where he was born. I feel sorry for anyone with such a limited view of not only the world, but of the United States.

My advice? Go somewhere you have never been before, whether it's another state, some place within the state where you live, or another country. Expand  your horizons, spread your wings, and go explore the world!