Seriously, I ask myself this question frequently.
I was walking my dog early one morning shortly after sunrise. We were at the edge of the only paved road in my area, where there are no sidewalks and often nowhere to step off the road. Suddenly I spotted a small car approaching us very quickly, far above the posted 25 mph speed limit. The driver was driving into the sun, and there was no shoulder onto which we could step. Did the driver see us? We moved as far to the edge of the road as we could, but I was worried that we might be hit. Fortunately, we weren't, but it made me wonder why the driver didn't slow down until he passed us.
A few days later, a white pickup truck passed us so closely I thought we would be hit. Again, we stepped as far to the edge of the road as possible, but the driver didn't slow down or move into the other lane.
Too many people these days are just plain rude, selfish and self-centered. If I am driving and see someone walking along the road, I slow down and move a bit to the left to give him/her some space. But all too often, I don't get the same courtesy. I am left in a cloud of dust by drivers speeding along the dirt roads in my neighborhood.
A couple of years ago somebody broke into the offices of the local Make-A-Wish organization, which grants wishes to children with serious medical diagnoses. The thief or thieves stole gift cards and other things of value. Thieves have broken into a storage area holding Christmas gifts for children, collected by the US Marine Corp. How low will some people go? Apparently there is no bottom.
Online nastiness is everywhere. And this nastiness has nothing to do with the common politics-based anger and hatred so prevalent in our country.
Lack of compassion isn't limited to the United States, of course. I remember falling on an ice-covered sidewalk in Moscow, Russia, years ago. Sidewalks in Moscow, unlike in the US, don't get shoveled. Several people walked past me or stepped over me as I lay sprawled on the ground. A nice elderly woman then approached me, offered me her hand, and helped me to my feet.
When and why did so many people lose their sense of compassion? It takes so little effort to help others. Most of us aren't neurosurgeons rushing to perform brain surgery on a critically injured person in the hospital. We can take the time to perform a small act of kindness, but too many choose not to.
I recently came across an obese man whose electric scooter had become stuck in the loose dirt on one of the dirt roads in my area. I had my dog with me, but I asked if he needed a hand. He was able to step off the scooter and extricate it from the dirt, but he appreciated my offer to help. What did that act of kindness cost me? Nothing. It cost me nothing.
Maybe it's the way I was raised, but I have no problem holding a door for someone, or letting a shopper with only a few items go ahead of me in the checkout line. It's common courtesy, and it costs me nothing aside from a couple of minutes of my time.
Again, I have to wonder why we are so self-centered and rude? All of us can, and should, do better.